Tuesday, May 12, 2009

The "Love is Blind" Thing...

There are so many avenues and ways to go about pulling apart the old saying, "love is blind." It could mean so many things. Superficial or it could be taken a little deeper than that. We can talk about and analyze that saying for hours... days even. But the other night I was lying in bed reading and came across something that stood out to me. "Love is indeed blind, and it makes you acknowledge qualities in a person that don't exist...." I guess this was interesting to me having been in love and experiencing the ups and downs, I know that I had a tendency to make the person out to be something he wasn't. Mainly because what he wasn't was what I needed him to be. So the slightest sign or taste of the need was enough. Making me magnify his lack and manipulate it into being something positive. Am I alone here or has anyone else been there? When you think about it, it's dangerous to be that impaired, if you will. Vision impaired that is. You can't see the forest for the trees. Clinging to what you want. Falling for "the want" and allowing that to obscure your vision to the obvious. Needs become secondary. Wants are now priority. I posted something similar in reference to a Jill Scott poem "Love Rain" (2/5/09). Remember? "Now me non clairvoyant and in love made the coochie easy and the obvious invisible..." Go back and read it! lol!!!! The tone of that post is similar to this question but not identical. In part, it applies to that "Love is indeed blind..." statement. Packs a punch. I guess all I'm really asking is... what are some measures that you all feel should be taken to circumvent "blindness" in relationships?

Have a "rock-out" Wednesday guys!

2 comments:

Racquel said...

I don't think love is blind, I think the individual is blind, but the blame has to be placed on something so let's blame it on "love". I've been there, and was as blind as a bat. I learned with my last failed relationship to never get into a relationship because I have needs. My needs are to great for one individual to meet. Honestly, I had my priorities out of whack.....it's God that meets the NEED one big need not needs.....but NEED. That's why most of my relationships failed because I wanted him to meet my needs, and I saw him and just knew he could.....but he couldn't even meet his own. It's funny how we search in wrong place for what's good for us. So nah, love is not blind, we are.

True Menfese said...

I'm going to address this from a faith based/spiritual perspective and try not to sound too philosophical.

Ok ...
There is no separation between our spirits and desire for(faith)/ LOVE. The GOD that has no name "is" LOVE and FAITH. So, if ... faith is based on what isn't seen, (as is our GOD not physically tangible) then our desire to be, do, have, and give love is not seen until we "choose". This can turn into codependency as we look for it from outside ourselves (as Pac stated).

Deeper still, the faith that we live is our "only" faith because we want it to be. A CHRISTian is one by choice, as is a muslim, buhdist, taoist, and so on. No one makes us believe ... it's because of our desire to believe that we actually believe "what we want". The nameless GOD said it ... "Your heart is where your treasure is" So in absolute truth, it all comes from inside of us. Where are we? Love is blind because our spiritual belief system is translated through humanity that is learning to be spiritual and learning to "know" what real LOVE is. Love never comes from outside first. It's all from within. Which is why people bounce from one relationship to the next. Perfection is relative and is only found within certain confines. The million dollar question is ... 'WHAT ARE YOU WILLING TO TOLERATE AND WORK ON; IN YOU FIRST"? Then you'll know what you're looking for in a relationship. What's more revealing is even once you attract that person/relationship ... You and it will evolve into something totally different from one year to the next. It really is all about YOU ...

I hope this was clear