Wednesday, May 7, 2008
So she creeps . . .
In 1994 the R&B trio TLC released a song on their CrazySexyCool album entitled "Creep" and as you can see, I’ve used that as today’s blog topic. The song became the topic of discussion for people in relationships during that time and has since become a timeless source to draw from. The lyrics were written from a woman-in-need's perspective. She knows she’s being cheated on, so in turn, she reciprocates the action. I personally don’t think the intentions for the song are malicious. This is a lonely woman, in love with her “significant other” or entrée as I like to call them, and she’s in need of some attention and affection. The groove of the song is light-hearted but the premise is deep. I think people automatically assume that their intentions are to go out and sleep with whomever will pay them a little bit of attention (which some women do) or that they’re sleeping around to vindicate the lack of attention. I disagree. Creeping could mean a plethora of things – a quiet dinner with an attractive someone that’s into you, frequently intense emails with an old flame that you refuse to throw water on to extinguish, or doing just enough to get what you need or want from your lover a la carte - be it money, getting your hair and nails done, or bills paid. Ladies, you know exactly what I’m talking about. Don’t front. One of my bloggers posted a comment about yesterday’s topic and one thing that he said stood out to me. He said, “That’s why it’s said that women are better cheaters!” This is an open discussion. A battle of the sexes, if you will. The question: Why are women better cheaters?