Monday, May 12, 2008
Spiteful Booty
And so the saying goes, “There’s nothing like a woman scorned.” I usually use a movie as a reference and today is no different. One of my all time favorite movies is the BEST MAN, released in 1999 and starring Taye Diggs and Nia Long (as well as a host of other great African-American actors). And of course, this is a Spike Lee production so I had to include it in this series (and it’s directed by his brother Malcolm D. Lee). The movie is centered around a wedding. Some college friends reconnect for the big shin-dig around the time that one of the clan, Harper, the writer (Taye Diggs) gets ready to release his first novel, which airs some “dirty laundry”. By the end of the film the crew figures out that Harper had a fling with the groom’s bride-to-be and, needless to say, all hell breaks lose. I want to talk about Mia’s intent, the bride (Monica Calhoun). Lance, the groom (Morris Chestnut) is doing his thing throughout the relationship and it doesn’t help that he’s a professional athlete (wink-wink). She gets fed up and decides to gut-punch that ass and hit him where it hurts. She sleeps with his best friend – the best man. Damn! Scandalous, ain't it? Now, I don't believe that she ever wanted any of this to come out. She did it on the sly - in a very cunning and, might I add, commendable way. She wasn't blatant and loud with hers. Whether Lance knew or not, she did it and the idea was enough to satisfy the revenge she was seeking. He never really needed to know. She and Harper were really the only two that needed to know. However, Lance admits at the end of the movie, "I always knew she'd been with someone else." The fact that his best friend was "that self-serving, back-stabbing bastard" was added ammo. Women are naturally vindictive creatures. When we’re hurt, we go for the gusto. Unfortunately, I can recall some rash decisions I’ve made out of anger and the backlash wasn’t . . . well . . . good. And if you’ve seen this movie, you know that the backlash here was hellacious, to say the least. Today’s question, Why do we feel the need for revenge when we’ve been hurt?
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This is an emailed post from my sister -
well I don't agree with women being naturally vindictive, I think it's a choice, there are good choices and bad (just my opinion). Hurt however, if you are not a strong person will cause you to act in such unnatural ways......leading to bitterness, almost like I can do what you did............but better (if you will). Revenge only hurts the one whose been hurt, so that person is actually doing more damage to themselves than that person did. They've moved on with their life doing there thing, and that person is still trying to get them back instead of just moving on. To me it's about choices, how long am I going to choose to fight this battle, I'm still holding the granade the pin has been pulled but I'm holding on so hard that I never throw the damn bomb..........and everything blows up in my face. Wow!
When I said that women are naturally vindictive . . . the word means that you pretty much fight back for the sake of reason. You don't think about the consequence. I think the previous blogger read too much into it. Women are the types of people that look for payback. You may not act on it but it's in us to fight back. Maybe it's just me but I'm a fighter. Agree or disagree . . . Mia got that off.
HA ! Great question ! Well this question isn't as much about female nature or male behavior as much as it is about HUMAN Natural Behavior. From the inception of Life we are fighters. We come to the impregnable egg of our Mother's womb as winners oi sprinters dash between millions of hungry competitors striving to be born just as hard as we were. We Prevailed ! Ha ! Though that initial battle isn't centered around "revenge" it speaks to the combative monster lurking just beneath (or above) the surface of every human walking the Earth. Now, the reason women or "The woman scorned" tends to go so hard with her "Backlash" is because they allow thier emotions to fuel the engine of the actions. Men on the other hand tend to act like "I ain't really care about that bitch anyway", hiding from real emotion or they crumble totally into a fetal ball of blubbering nothingness...much like those flash backs that had Morris Chestnut bitching up at the Altar ! LOL ! Anyway, as a few blogs back, it's made clear again that womens ability to emote effectively tends to give them the edge.... Ugghh I hate yall Bitches ! LOL !!! But the world wouldn't be Shit without every last one of You ! I love You and we Men live just for a chance encounter with you hoping that it could turn into FOREVER. Trust me, we may not act like that a lot of the time but that's realy what we want ! Anyway...Just my THoughts Niggas ! Holla
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